I like the title of your diary, blue roses are cool looking, the last I heard Japanese and Austrailian botanists were competing to see who could breed real blue roses first. I hope that all goes well with your relationships, both romantic and platonic.
I am glad that there are ladies out there who look for good personality in a guy, if only more guys would be that deep in what they look for in a woman. This posting reminds me of the song "Lets hear it for the boy" by Denice Williams.[CountAngus]
First of all, if you're going to comment in my diary, you address comments to me and me only. You don't give a sh*t what others think, you let THEM know. My diary isn't to be used to start sh*t with other people- especially my friends. Now:
"No one ever called anyone nappy headed because they wanted to say" oh hey it is a fact that your head is nappy, just like a Native Indian has staright hair" Give me a damn break. People call others nappy headed in an effort to insult them or degrade them because "nappy hair" is considered ugly and undesirable especcially when it is used to refer to the hair texture of blacks. If it wasn't derogatory then people wouldn't call you nappy headed.Again I must reiterate that if you are not of the "wooly" hair type you will never know the effect of the word nappy. So please spare me your random spoutings about how you don't see the racism in it."
You know what, just f***ing spare me already. I tried to be nice about it, and now I don't give a sh*t. You think it's racist, that's on you. I'm a realist. I have thoughts. I don't follow the crowd or take the mainstream view on things. So let me get this straight: if someone called ANYONE other than a black person nappy headed, it would be O.K., but the moment a black person gets called nappy headed, it's racist? Give me a f***ing break already.
"You probably will never understand especcially on this pedestal that you are so superficcially perched on, and giving yourself the task of determining what should offend people and why society will never progress."
Funny you should mention that, considering you have taken just about everything I have said and tried to turn it into some sort of racial thing. I'm not on a pedestal, I'm firmly entrenched in the 21st century- in reality- and I don't determine what should or shouldn't offend people. I determine what does and doesn't offend ME. If others agree, more power to them. Society will never progress because of people like Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson- people who don't get that slavery is a long time gone, and yet they're still pissed off that they didn't get their 40 acres and a mule or whatever- people like you, it would seem.
"It's people like you and the like who have attempt to set up various meters as to where things rank that causes the problems."
People like me? I'd love to know what you mean by that. If, by "people like you", you mean people who understand that life isn't all about race and issues and trying to make mountains out of molehills when stupidity runs rampant, then I would take that as a compliment.
"If somebody can sit by and say," so what he called then ho's and nappy, who cares" then we've got a bigger problem than Imus spewing nonsense. We've got a bigger problem if we have people sitting by and saying oh he was wrong but then turn around and say but we really shouldn't care because according to my "offensive meter", nappy is a 1/4 on a scale of 10."
First of all, I never said who cares. At first, I was offended, but then I realized that I don't like him to begin with, he gets paid to be a douchebag, and he finally hung himself with all the rope he was given (even though I still think it was bullsh*t to fire him), then it got a lot easier to get over. Yeah, to me, nappy doesn't even register that high on my offensive meter. Now, if he had used that other N word, or any other slur that those rednecks in the south love to use so damn much, then I would have been extremely offended. Making fun of someone's hair is f***ing juvenile and doesn't even warrant a second thought.
" Interesting that you would single young blacks out in your first entry and then conveniently remember that rap music is universal in your second response after the gross generalization that it was."
No, what's really interesting is that you weren't bright enough to get the implication the first time around, hence me having to explain it to you the second time around. I didn't single out "young blacks". That was your inferrence, and a very asinine one at that. How's that for a gross generalization?
Well, first off, let me say that I admire your tenacity and I enjoy the fact that you can come to me in a reasonably intelligent manner in expressing your views. That being said, I honestly believe you're missing the forest for the trees. Nappy may or may not be a derrogatory word. Frankly, I fail to see how it is other than 1 person (that would be you) telling me it is, but as you said in your comment this morning (or last night), I am not of the "wooly headed" variety. No, I didn't generalize. The fact of the matter is that I didn't have any preconcieved notions. Rap is probably the most listened-to genre of music next to pop. Just because I didn't include the white girls in there does not in any way, shape or form mean that I was making a racist statement. That was your interpretation of it. Yes, I would be willing to be that EVEN then white girls listened to rap music as well. My sister does. Most of her friends do. Hell, I would be willing to bet that just as many white people (including myself, but I listen to all genres of music- something most people do not do) listen to rap as black people do, but I digress. No, I asked you because I was genuinely curious how many black people you knew (or even in general for that matter) that listened to rock and other stuff. That's not based on the color of your skin. Again, your interpretation. No, my dear. You have me all wrong. I am not a contributor to the double standard of which I speak. I am a realist, which means that I see the world in layers- not just the surface of it all. Call me a racist all you want, but I honestly believe that you're not getting what I'm trying to say, and that's cool too. Not many people do. One more thing: if you didn't notice, I had also said that the Rutger's women were just as much the victim in all of this as anyone else.
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Thanks fpr the comment in my entry. I do, however have a few points that I would like to expand on.
"Regardless of how much you say that people embrace the term "nappy" it has and will always have a negative connotation to it. Just because it is embraced by some does not make it acceptable."
Perhaps, and I'm willing to concede that while it may not be acceptable (though if it weren't, then why does it seem to be so popular?), it may not be as negative as you think. If it's so negative, then why is it that it seems to be more profitable?
"Second, how dare you generalize and say that the young women of the team all listened to rap and hip hop music that speaks of women as hos and the like.So what are you saying.. Because they are young and black they surely must identify and listen to rap music?"
How dare I? First of all, I never said for sure that they did. I said, and I'm quoting now, that "I would also bet" that they did. I did not say that as fact. Second of all, let me ask you this? How many young black women do you know (since you opened the door) that listen to Metallica? Linkin Park maybe? Nickelback, perhaps? How dare you make broad assumptions without bothering to make sure you know what I'm saying? I never said they identify with rap simply because they are young and black. Hell, I never got within the same zip code of saying that.
"In reading what you wrote I can say that you dear regardless of how you try to make us readers believe different have some racist ideas. If you can stay there and just assume that because the players had some "nappy" hair and negro skin that rap music was their heartbeat. It's wrong and a shameful thing to say and do. You are generalizing a whole set of people by the actions of some which makes you small minded. I don't care if you differ."
Well that's good that you don't care, because then I say say what I gotta say a lot easier. First of all, you dare to call me a racist based upon YOUR interpretations of what I wrote? Sounds a little bit like the pot calling the kettle black, no pun intended. Again, please show me exactly where I either said or even assumed that "because the players had some "nappy" hair and negro skin that rap music was their heartbeat". If anything, it is wrong, shameful, and dare I even say ignorant on your part to put words either in my mouth or on my fingertips when such things were never even close. Don't call me small minded and racist when you have made these sweeping accusations with nothing but your opinion to back them up. Wrong and shameful, indeed.
"That's not the point. The point is that statement was RACIST. no ifs ands or buts about it. You may fail to see it but I doubt that in your previous life you were ever a darkie in the canefields pounding iron."
NO, the statement was not at all racist. Period. End of story. Sexist, most definitely. Stupid? 100% yes. You're right. I fail to see it. I fail to see it because it ISN'T there. I doubt you were in a canefield pounding iron in a past life too. Glad we can agree on that. Question: what EXACTLY does that have to do with the here and now?
" So, I forgive you for what you do not understand. It seems to me that these girls were out there playing a sport, doing something positive, attending university. What gives Imus or anybody else the right to call them hos. I don't give two whistles if its in the rap songs or wherever else you hear it. He should not be calling the girls that."
I forgive you for being as racist as you claim me to be too. I also agree with you that Imus had no right whatsoever to call them hos, and if I wasn't clear enough on that, then I apologize. Don't forget, I also said I wasn't a fan and wasn't defending his words. I just don't think he should have lost his job over them.
"Why doesn't he turn his attention to the famous actresses and singers who quite frankly, I have seen enough of their privates. They have a very big impact on the minds of the youth and from what I have seen, the world is in deep trouble if our children are looking up to them and emulating their behaviour"
Why should he turn his attention to them when we practically have 24 hour a day coverage of them to begin with? What makes them so newsworthy? Once again, I agree with you wholeheartedly on your last point. The last thing we need is our children looking up to air-headed, drugged and drunk sluts and morons trying to expand their 15 minutes of fame.
"What sickens me is the people who say, oh so what he made a sexist statement; so what, he called them nappy headed; so what people do it everyday. CRAP CRAP and more CRAP. THAT is what's wrong with society today."
Look, maybe you don't realize it, or maybe you're just numb to it by now, but the fact of the matter is that being called nappy headed isn't racist. Frankly, I don't understand how it got to be so negative. Saying black people have nappy hair is like saying white people killed the Indians. That's not racist- IT'S TRUE! How many white, latino, or even Asian people do you know that have hair similar to black people? That's not being racist. That's being realistic. All I can say is that if you consider that racist, then I'm sorry you feel that way but it doesn't change anything. You are absolutely right. It is never O.K. to be called a bitch, ho, or anything of that nature by anyone.Yes, all people should take offense to what is being said in rap music, because it has evolved from something that was fairly positive back in the early to mid 80's to the anthem for thugs, criminals, and people who take it seriously enough to try and emulate the lyrics. That applies to people of ALL colors. You may have heard some pretty racist redneck comedy, but tell me this. What's more popular- redneck comedy or comics who crack jokes about white people all the time? Perhaps you didn't quite get the point of my entry, which is simply this: the double standard in race has been accepted for too long, and we as a society (meaning people of ALL colors) need to wise the f*** up and fly right. You can't get mad at white people for being racist (even though they are morons, at best) and then think it's funny when black (or any other color, for that matter) people do the same thing.
I liked that entry. Well written, and taking into consideration my usual attention spam is of 15 seconds, you have accomplished a great deal here.
I just wonder, do you actually sit down waiting for guys to come your way? How about you going to a guy you like? What is he going to do, kill you?
How about showing some confidence and balls, Lenahan's style, going to whatever guy you like and ask him to take you out? I guarantee the worst case scenario is they will be grateful to you for inflating their egos.
I thought the Note you left for Lenahan was incredible and really accurate. I just wanted to come & check out your story :-) I'm glad I did! You seem like a fantastic person. [Damaged]
"So I say to you the proclaimed "Ringmaster" I am beginning to think that this confidence that you claim to have is merely a facade to hide insecurities which drive you crazy"
I think this is probably one of the most accurate descriptions someone ever gave to me.
I can not believe you dedicated one entry just to me. I am trully touched. But I need to clarify some little things:
1) The Lenahan in MDD is the same in real life. My diary is a full-color reflection of my real life. I hide nothing. This is why you can see a mixture of happy and sad entries, because is just the way my life goes.
2) If you meet me you would never know is me. I mean, I would not allow myself to meet you, because you know me, and thus you could easily outsmart me.
3) There is only 1 Lenahan. Please don't compare me with other guys, because there is a main difference between them and me. I know what I am doing and I take my chances, while others find all kind of excuses for their behaviours. I am evil and I have no excuse. That is the difference.
Next entry will go to explain what happens when I go honest instead of cheating. Maybe then you will understand me better.
I hope you aren't planning on losing your virginity to him. Guys hate it when you throw things in their faces that happened in the past..so if you want to start a fight, do that. If not, don't. You should always make clear with anyone that you are going to their house.[caffeinefree]
Ok. Here is a thought: Why not just have sex with him and see what happens? I mean, is not like we are in the 80s and you are going to give him your "flower" or anything, right? Who know where your flower is right now right? Is not like he is the only one who is going to enjoy it, right?
Just f*** him, baby, and then see what happens. All this drinking bullsh*t will do you not good.
The only way to know is to see how long he sticks around and if he sticks around when times are tough. And- love does exist in the eyes. He should stare at you alot if he's in love and he should want to hold you alot.
All this pain comes from within you. Nobody is hurting you but yourself, and your expectations for guys, of course.
You are pushing this poor guy and he may probably be completed burned out. And you THINK TOO MUCH.
Situation: you and him in the kitchen
You: Do you want water
Him: No, thanks.
And then you think "oh my god why he did not want my water? Does it mean he does not want the source of my heart, represented by water? Is he going to break up with me? Maybe, he said thanks because he wants to thanks for the time we haev been together, and then he will leave me?
While he is thinking "I am not thirsty".
Get my drift? Men are simple! We are simple. Stop guessing. Stop following men. Make men follow you.
Lead a normal life, and when guys come near you just act cool and careless. They will fall at your feet. Or you did not see it already by my experience with women?
If you want to know about medicine, do you ask a mechanic or a doctor? So whatever gave you the idea that other women will know men better than men? Just something for you to think about...ask guys about what other guys think, you will get better answers.
Now the conversation you had with that guy could be done with me, and you would get exactly the same results. I think the problem lay on the fact you still did not realize we are willing to do about ANYTHING to get laid, including cheating lying or whatever it takes.
You ask him if there is anyone else...what do you expect him to answer? If he says yes, he loses you and you go crazy, so whatever is the truth he will answer "no, I don't have anyone else". You basically forced him to do that.
Another one. You asked him if he just wants sex with you. If he say yes, you will be mad. So he must answer no.
Is he afraid of starting something with you? NO HELL NO. He is afraid of the heat that he is going to get. He is considering the amount of freedom he will lose, and whether is worth. At least that is my oppinion.
As I told my ex Rosey, instead of finding out whether he lie or not you may consider why he lie instead.
My sexy chocolate cake. I can relate. I know exactly where is behaviour come from, and he will kll me to tell you what is going on.
Well let me unfold the mistery for you:
I think he may have someone else on the side, or not be sure whether to start with you. You know, take a girlfriend means give up many things you can do, and much freedom. He may be afraid of that.
About the "no sex on first date" he may mean it, but this I ALWAYS do with girls I know I can not have sex with on the first date. By doing so I guarantee I will have sex soon and make myself look like a good guy. Even if I want I will not have sex with them, so I can use it as an argument in my favour, get my drift?
Thank you soooooo very much! You brightened my day!
I loved what you wrote about learning so much in 06! You've come a long way.
You have such a beautiful attitude and heart.
I am wishing you the best with your decision about the two guys...Isn't that the way it happens...Get two after you at the same time...Sure does keep things interesting...Just don't let them stress you out.
No problems! I love you too. You may be one of the lucky few girls who really accept someone for who he is. I tried to be myself several times (even in my last entry) and every time I crash.
I am a sensitive and caring person (just go ask my mum) but this does not catch any girl's attention, so I play as a rude and careless guy. I hate it, but that is my only way to get what I want. Honesty and truth never got me anywhere.
That is exactly your problem. Search. You go paint a dream man and search for the ones fitting the picture. This will take you nowehere.
How about this? Find a good man and see if your requirements can be flexible enough to adapt to him. It would be easier.
What you wrote is awe-inspiring, but I have heard that so many times. And from girls who will fall heads over heels and the next Brad pit look-alike a**h*** who comes into their lives, instead of realizing that the great guy is that one sitting beside you in the office, not so well dressed, quite shy, who will never ask you out because he will never think he may get a chance, simply because he is not that Brad pit look-alike.
Sorry dear, you know I love you, but we both know looks wins over hearts anytime.
At one time I was exactly that guy you wrote about. But girls have a taste for danger and it did not work out, so I changed into the firebox I am now. Umperdictable, unreachable, I will be all over you one day and ignore you the next, keeping you on the edge and not letting you lose your attention on me, driving you crazy in bed, promising marriage but with conditions I will be sure you can not meet. That's me.
From my point of view, I can see you are looking for an spiritual bonding, then a physical one. Your body is just the opposite, and he is just like most guys around. He wants the sex first, then we will see.
...and by "we will see" I mean just that. The more you force him to be the man you want, the further he will go from that point. You either take him as he is, or find someone else.
Thanks for your kind words. It is true I get a fair amount of insult, which is really fine. I do not care. But I also want to say something in my defense: If I could approach women with the truth, if women would be honest to themselves and admit they want sex with me when they do, or they are interested, or they are not, then I would never need to go to such lenghts just to get laid.
Please notice I say women because is the flavour I like. This applies to men and women all the same.
I wish I could meet a girl and tell her "Hi. You are hot. I would like to f*** you and then I donīt want to know anything about you anymore. this does not mean I am insulting you or anything. Is the plain truth".
How many problems we could solve if we were a bit more honest and true to ourselves.
Anyways, lets crack this entry of yours:
"leads me to believe that he is trying to make me feel that he will not be dependent on a oman for happiness" Or maybe he was busy working, or forgot, or has his mum at home. Hello? Did you hear the news? YOU are not the center of his life, dear.
"I do not plan to reply to his one line (sex charged) e-mail" I hope you donīt reply because you are not in the mood for sex. Otherwise I would tend to believe you are using no-sex as a weapon, meaning he will soon find someone to have sex with.
"I am just being another woman who gets mad when she doesn't get her way but I am at the point in my life where I don't think that I should care if I come across as being selfish" GREAT. Now you are making sense. This is what you have to do. Be selfish is fine, but much more important is to be true to yourself. In fact, we all want to get our way. Nothing wrong in that, dear.
"What is wrong with wanting something more than a sexual relationship?" Nothing, as long as you both agree. But I tend to believe maybe is not the case. How about asking your buddy directly? It may save you countless sleepless hours of despair.
In my oppinion, what is wrong is that you are not yet sure about his feelings towards you, and, quite frankly, there is no way of knowing for sure. Take Rosey, for instance. Did you read my last entry about her? I was in "fight mode" because I wanted to, and then, when I wanted to f*** her again, I made up with her. I know she wants to marry me, and I use that in my favour. I know she deeply loves me, and who wouldnīt? Honest to god, I am a funny guy, with a good job, speak several languages, and I am not ugly. On top of that I am big in the sexual department. So she wants to catch me. But I donīt want to marry her. I will never marry her because (please pay attention and see if it rings any bell) SHE WANTS TO CONTROL ME. She wants me to behave in the way that she likes. This is why it will never work.
So basically, what you should do is make an assestment. Meet him and tell him and ask him exactly what he wants. As easy as that.
Now letīs suppose that I am your guy. NOTICE: He may actually want to have a serious relationship, but for the sake of trying to find out the worst case scenario letīs suppose he thinks like me:
You: If you only want sex I will not give it to you
My answer: I want to have a deep, meaningful relationship with you. Letīs make love, not sex. Letīs be together as a real couple.
What I am really thinking: I want sex. She will not give it to me. So I have to lie to get it. No problemo.
Get my drift? Truth is, you will never find out what he really thinks, before we will tell different things to different people. Sometimes, we donīt even know how we feel. The best thing to do is trust your instints and try to see if he is really going the extra mile to be with you. Otherwise, and if you are not interested in a sexual relationship, let him go.
But be honest to yourself too. How could would it be if you tell him "Hi, I want a serious relationship, but if all you want is sex, I agree to that too. Until I find a real relationship we will be having sex of common agreement". That is, in my oppinion, the best way to get his real answer.
"I was put under his spell again" - You imply he is a bad guy and you are a poor sheep "under his spell".
"by telling him that I needed more" - Why women always ask more and more? This is really beyond me. Trust me when I tell you we guys do give the best and most we can. How about asking him about HIS problems and why he can not give more? Maybe he has a family problem or something. It would be nice to think a bit about him.
"He tried acting like he did not know what I meant " So now you can read minds? Did you consider the possibility that a) he actually did not know what you mean or b) He, as me, as any man in this world, like STAIGHT ANSWERS and STRAIGHT SENTENCES. How about talk in plain English instead of talking in women language? That would really ease things up.
" said forget about it because I was afraid to say yes" See what I mean? How do you expect him to understand you if you say one thing and mean another?
You are very much like my ex-no-yes-no-ex-yes Rosey. Read any entry about her and you will understand what he may be feeling.
"called me a mean spiteful, hateful little girl who always wants her way"
One thing I hate about some of my lovers/girlfriends/blah is the fact that they do not provide full detail of why things happened.
Imagine you are a judge, and you heard "oh, he stole my car". He must be guilty, right? WRONG. Maybe the car is HIS car, that he is taking back. Just an example.
In my long experience with women I found that sometimes they prioritize in their way. I explain. For me, a job is very important, because I can provide for my family (mother). This is first and foremost. If you get angry (this actually happened) because I can not leave my job in the weekend to go out with you, then you are a mean spiteful, hateful little girl who always wants her way.
I am not trying to protect the guy, but I want to hear the whole story. So far, I haveto be devil's advocate on this one.
Give me more info and I will give you a better insight.
Everyone's different. There are plenty of fish out there. Finding the one means you have to weed through all the losers. You my friend, seem to be stuck in loser central like most of the single population of the world. XD[TheEmoCupcake]
I just want to say thank you to all the persons who responded to my entry. First of all I want to say that I appreciate all the comments. Your comments gave me a good insight as to the guy's perspective. I definitely like that. I am learning from you and hopefully you are learning fom me.
lol,, You might b amaxed,, but the feelings u have described here,, is sumthing similar 2 what boys feel,, As per my experience of life,, there is nothing as gud boy or bad girl,, till the tiemn we are attracted to them , we woudl find them a sthe bets person , and once teh attraction is gone,, the same person with same very qualitie sowudl appear jerk, his/ her qualities would b now the biggest turnoffs,,, well, may b they ( elders) say that nothing can satisfy us ever, afetrall its human nature. well, i hope soon u will feel better take care n keep smiling.
Not all guys are sex crazed. There are guys out there who can control themselves.
I very rarely think about sex and it's not one of the things I look for in a relationship.
In this world today we are taught that sex is everything and especially that men should be sex crazed. I don't think about sex very often but I think of it more then I normally would because it is constantly shoved in our face. TV, billboards, magazines, the Internet. I'll be looking up one thing and have a porno site pop up. Sex is shoved down our throats and we're told that it is normal and right and that ten year olds should be having sex and that multiple partners is okay.
And those of us who speak out against these things are called prudes and laughed at.
I'm sorry that you fell in love with another brainwashed, sex crazed guy but not all of us are that way.
Dear,
As much as guys donīt get you, you donīt get us either.
"I mean men complain that women are confusing and complex and hard to please. I'm tired of hearing that sh*t"
We just want food, money, sex, sleep, pleasures (such as booze, smoke, drugs, PS2, whatever turns you on). Women want deep meaningful lives. So who is the complex one?
"It's so easy to satisfy and keep a good women. It's simple. Give her a reason to keep coming back"
Agree. Lies come handy there. I usually pretend I care and they keep coming back for sure! But it does bother me that I have to pretend things though.
"But noooo these idiots want to treat us good ones like crap and save all the niceness for the ones who aren't worth a pound of dirt"
Not exactly. In order to get sex, which is the only thing we really want from you, we have to be nice for a while. Once we get sex, we lose the interest, so this is why you have the perception that we treat you worse than others. In fact, we only treat well gals who we did not f*** or are not tired of yet.
"When they meet the next good woman she has to pay for the shortcomings of the woman before"
You are right on the spot there!
"Just once I would like to be around a guy who doesn't focus on that so frequently. Why don't they realize that all that will come soon enough?"
Yes and not. We are programmed to think sex 24/7, so if you think we are not doing so is simply because you are with a guy like me, one who can lie well. We can be patient as long as a) we are ugly and have nothing better to do or b) we have something on the side (like me). Once a girlfriend told me that I would never have sex with her again until I marry her. I answer her "I agree, I will never have sex WITH YOU until we marry". My argument convinced her soon enough...
"there's more to me than sex"
Me too. I just donīt like to talk to gals about it. Unless you have sound knowledge about cars, computers, motorbikes, action movies or other things that guys like.
"I just hate the feeling of being with a guy and trying to experience something much deeper and more meaningful and he is counting the minutes till het gets between my legs"
Welcome to reality. What I do is pretend I am listening while trying to figure out how to get you in my lap. If I do not succeded is ok, I will leave soon "I have to work dear" and go to one of my "beck and call" girls. You will stay home thinking what a nice guy I am while I am having a piece of ass. And trust me, I WILL have a piece of ass, but is for you to decide whether is going to be yours or someone elseīs.
"I mean, you won't ever get there if that's the only place you want to go"
Not true. It will all depends on my ability to lie to you. And trust me, I exercise every single day.
" Just once I want him to just be sweet and caring instead of horny"
Like I said, f*** the horny and you will get the sweet behind. This is how we work.
I donīt mean insult you or any disrespect. Just wanted to show you how an average Joe thinks. I think it wouldnīt hurt you read some of my entries, although I advice you to begin by entry 1.
You are absolutely right in what you are saying. Dudes are driven by hormones that make them crazy for sex 24/7. That is a just a biological reality. The other stuff, like how to connect with girls, takes learning and that is a LONG process.
Just understand what you are dealing with and be patient until the right one arrives. When you have a bad feeling about a dude or his motives you are probably right. So just trust your own instincts.
yes i have loved someone so much as you have described. my bf is exactly like this guy you are talking and he says the EXACTLY same thing you wrote when we fight.[soccer20]
Never give up on pursuing the person you love. Perserverence is what got my husband and I together... I finally gave in... Just remember it wont always be this way. I know one day you will experience something true and deep, sometimes you have to hang back and sometimes well you just have to be persistant..oh and dont let the guy play you either he is interested or he isnt...
oh god, you poor thing! you must be so f***ing confused! sorry about the language.
you have no idea how many times that has happened to me! any way, if you wanna chat sometime, leave a comment in my diary or if you have hot mail add this addy. gracebowden@hotmail.com.
At least you wil know for sure what you can get...
You brightened my day!
But so proud of you for sticking up for yourself and not giving in! Heart Hugs to you!
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